One of the challenges to working with children in a clinical setting is that they are rarely strong enough to overcome the environmental press created by the family dynamics they are being raised within. In society today their is a movement away from accountability in general, and many times when a child therapist wants to address the environment that children are being raised within, the parents scream “FOUL BALL” and claim that they are being blamed for the bad behavior of their children. Read the rest of this entry »

The first and most important thing you need to know about your inner Bully is that no matter how distorted and false his attacks may be, he is almost always believed. When your Bully says, “God, you’re dumb,” and that voice inside your head fills you up with self disgust, this judgment seems just as true to you as the awareness that you’re tired this morning, or that you have brown eyes, or that you don’t understand the latest video game or computer software as well as you “should”. Read the rest of this entry »

I have a screaming hateful voice in my head.

A couple of years ago a CEO of a midsized company who was a client made this statement in a session, “I have a screaming hateful voice in my head” after which he buried his face in his hands and sobbed.

After regaining his composure he described the pain he carried everyday, of never feeling like he was doing enough, intelligent enough, competent in his job or closest relationships, nor that he really had anything of value to offer.  As the discussion progressed, it was amazing how his real world accomplishments did nothing to bolster or assuage his inner feelings of inadequacy and feeling of being worthless.

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