Check out part 4 of Dr. Robert Rhoton’s presentation on Family Dysregulation due to trauma. Part 4 takes a closer look at environmental factors that contribute to traumagenic families.
“I thought marriage and having a family would really be more about sharing and having fun together” “What I am finding is that it feels like all the light and energy have been sucked out of me, and I am miserable and feeling hopeless!” So spoke a mother of four struggling with depression and intense feelings of inadequacy. Read the rest of this entry »
This is the second part of Dr. Robert Rhoton’s presentation on Traumagenic families. In this video, Dr. Rhoton explains the role of the diencephalon and limbic system in the brain and the impact of when they become deregulated. It impacts more then you’d think…check it out!
Trauma Therapy: Family Dysregulation – Part 2
One of the most significant aspects of this book is that it presents a structured way to form and maintain positive therapeutic relationships between the client and the therapist. It shows a frank and straightforward way to be respectful and help the client find the strengths and abilities to navigate problems and build a future of positive possibilities.
Being assertive is a foundational communication skill. Many people when thinking of assertiveness in communications tend to misperceive it as hostile, abrupt and rude. This of course is very far from the reality; assertiveness is quite different than aggression.
How often have those who are married or in long term relationships found themselves in a conflict they couldn’t resolve. In the spring of 1999 one of my clients stated, “I have only had one fight with my husband, it started on our wedding day in 1968 and we are hoping for an ending real soon.” While her comment was humorous, it does highlight one of the problems in communication with couples and families.
Family Communication Part #7: Family Identity – Beliefs, Values, and Attitudes All families have a collective sense of identity, sometimes that identity is an asset to the family and sometimes it is less so. Family identity or the “this is who we are” is based on a foundation of beliefs, values and attitudes. This family identity also carries with it a number of attached “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts” that provide the matrix for family interactions to unfold. Read the rest of this entry »
Hurtful Words: A knowledge of the ways in which words affect you and how your family interact.
Every family has a unique way in which words produce responses. For example one family might really enjoy movies and insert movie lines to convey large bits of information in a specialized way.
Trust is a huge issue in communication and it plays out at a number of levels in a family. The parents that perceive bad intention in their spouse will react to these perceptions as if it were reality but that may not be the case. Trust is integral part of all solid attachment in any relationship, family, work or friendship.
One of the things that are very common in family communication is that people operate in a rather mindless way. Frequently we are unaware of what our silent messages are really communicating.
One time a client spent considerable time trying to convince me that she wasn’t communicating anything to her husband or children when she refused to speak with them or would behave sulkily. Of course through a discussion of this she finally came to realize that these silent communications were often louder and clearer than the verbal things she might say.
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