There is a tremendous amount of discussion in the self-help world today about being true to one’s self, loving one’s self and following one’s purpose.  Some professionals and popular writers have suggested people should strive to love themselves and that if they can achieve such a noble thing that they will find life to be effortless filled with all their desires and that if they can be true to themselves, they are bound to find happiness and wholeness in a world of chaos.  There is certainly a piece of this that has a veneer of truth, though much of this thought is a public relations and marketing gimmick rather than something of substance.

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What is forgiveness?

Forgiveness is a choice to free the self from the bondage of negative and painful thoughts or memories related to a senseless act or premeditated and repeated injury. Read the rest of this entry »

Many people have experienced horrible and terrifying moments that have burned painful memories and associated emotions deep within their psyche. An example of this might be the husband that finds his wife has been unfaithful to the marriage vows and is now pregnant with another man’s child; perhaps the mother that discovers her new husband has been molesting her daughter. These horrible experiences create emotional and psychological scars that interrupt and interfere with living a stable and satisfying life. Read the rest of this entry »

Every human being is striving to meet certain psychological and emotional needs.   These needs or drives can be simplified into common themes.  It is not the search to obtain one or more of these that are problematic, but how people go about doing so. Read the rest of this entry »