Many communities around the holidays have crisis people available throughout the holidays. People that find themselves in a severe depression over the holiday season can always call a crisis line. You can call one of the phone services, be it the cable company or Quest and an operator can hook you right up to those crisis lines.
Note: I’m not talking about just suicidal. Crisis lines handle a lot more than just suicidal calls during the holidays. Read the rest of this entry »
At the last hours before the bells ring, if you still find yourself with the holiday blues and are feeling depressed and alone that’s when you’re probably going to have to rely on things that you can do for yourself. If you do find yourself without any plans and you feel like you’d rather not be alone and you don’t have a network of people to reach out to, you may want visit a public location where there are others who find themselves under a similar circumstance.
A lot of people that are really introverted have intensely close good friends; they’re just few in numbers. What I would suggest, if you may find yourself possibly facing the holidays alone, is that that you reach out and make a phone call. Talk to these close contacts and see what they are doing. Maybe you’d find that you’d be welcome to share in these holiday events with them.
It’s the unusual person that isn’t connected to someone or several people. The problem is that people that are feeling isolated and alone, and this is part of the depression, they tell themselves that they don’t have anybody in their life. Read the rest of this entry »
One of the things that you’re going to find is that a lot of times people hit the holiday season disenfranchised from other folks. This is particularly true for people that spend a lot of their time online; gamers on interactive sites and people that interact on peer networks and do a lot of their visiting with others on-line.
What they may find over the holidays is that a lot of their peers that they interact with on-line are not available during the holiday season and off-line and they realize that they are not as connected with people as they normally think they are and loneliness and feelings of isolation can kick in. A lot of times these people can find themselves feeling depressed, anxious and a lot of times just really lonely over the holidays. Read the rest of this entry »
I had a couple come in for marriage counseling who were having a lot of problems communicating. They fought constantly. Their marriage was in crisis.
He was an engineer; he talked very logic-based, very reason-based. She was all emotion and everything was an emotional thing for her. He was really attracted to that in the beginning and she was attracted to him because he was organized and logical guy.
Eight years later, they’re no longer attracted to each other. So they talked about what they felt like they needed to do which was work on their ability to communicate with each other and hear each other in the language that they used. Read the rest of this entry »
I had a client named Tina come in for a consultation who was having a problem losing weight. She talked about how depressed she was because of the weight. When I begin to look at the pattern, what I found was that in her family to be connected they had meals together where there was lots of food where you were supposed to eat vigorously to show that you cared. Read the rest of this entry »